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Thursday, November 20, 2008 at 7:00am | 0 Comments | 0 Recommendations

You, Me, and Him

By Anslem Samuel

Your Ex's Wedding


 ”Would you come to my wedding?” Under normal circumstances, most folks would be glad to attend the union of a man and woman–especially if it’s someone you care about. But when one of those people is an ex the answer morphs into a dicey and emotional equation with numerous variables.

 ”Would I attend my ex’s wedding?” Honestly, I don’t know. It would have to depend on which ex and how I feel about her at that period in my life. Am I happy for her and her beau or am I secretly jealous that she’s found love outside of us?

I’ll keep it all the way real, there are a few exs where I don’t think I could bear the sight of her walking down the aisle with the next man. It’s not that I don’t want happiness for her/them or that I want to get back with her/them, because if I truly love someone I want them to be happy even if it’s not with me. It’s just sometimes I don’t wanna see your happiness take place right before my eyes, ya know. To hear her pledge undying love to another man? Nah, that’s just not my idea of a good time.

Now if me and said ex are on good terms and still maintain a healthy friendship with no gray area, then it’s a whole other ball game. There’s no tension or moral dilemma on my part where I mourn the death of her singleness. I’ll wish her all the well wishes in the world and many years of marital bliss. But the question still remains: “Would I attend my ex’s wedding?”

Hmmm, I still don’t know. Does the fiancé despise me? Do I have a stunning girlfriend or faux girl to show off on my arm? Or am I just your still-single ex that you wanna rub your nuptials in the face of? Whatever the case, I hope he (whoever he is or will be) is an upgrade of me. Not saying that I’m the shit, but I would hope anyone I dealt with would not settle for less than greatness. And I think I’m pretty great. LOL

What’s your take, would you go to one of your ex’s wedding? Or, better yet, would you invite an ex to your wedding or is that just asking for trouble?

I’d love your insight on this one folks.

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