A Guy Named Leon
Interracial Dating In ‘09
By Leon Scott
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"...I only get irritated when I hear people talk about not dating their own kind..."
“Oh my God! The Mother of Mecca is right here before me! Do my eyes not deceive me, or am I looking at the goddess Isis herself? Can you do me a favor my brown-skinned? Can you tap that white girl for me?”
“My milk of magnesia! After the Devil made you, he broke the mold.“
What’s up everybody! I decided to start today’s entry off with one of my favorite quotes from “Don’t Be A Menace While Drinking Your Juice In The Hood. To actually watch the scene, click on the link below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RszOkTkxixk
It’s 2009, we have a black guy running the country, and other than the state of the economy and the fact that the rest of the world hates Americans, things are starting to look up. Therefore, I must ask this question for all readers, black, white, brown, high yellow, beige, burgundy and paisley: How do you feel about interracial dating?
I personally believe that people should be with whoever makes them happy. True love is colorblind, and it’s not my place to judge someone on whom they choose to have on their arm. That said, I am also a realist, and I know that every single day, people are judged by whom they choose to have on their arm. So while I am not opposed to people dating outside their race at all, I do think that folks who do go that route should learn to expect to see and hear people saying and doing ignorant things every now and then, because the world is not exactly an open-minded place. Not even in 2009, with a black president and a guy like me here to write enlightening essays such as the very one that your eyeballs are fixated on right now.
It’s wrong, hurtful and it’s ignorant, but as long as there are hurtful and ignorant people out there, it’s something you’ll have to adjust to and prepare for in certain places.
Now, let me take this time to talk about the content of the video that I placed above. Do any of you know a person that refuses to date members of his or her own race? I actually know a few black men and women who will come out and say that they prefer dating white folks, and then throw out some stereotypical reasoning that sounds logical to them, but would piss them off if someone made the same statement about them. It reminds me of the second verse from a song called “Hypocrite” on Kidz In The Hall’s first album. It refers to how this guy gets shot down by a girl who only dates white men, and he’s disgusted and morbidly fascinated by her self-hate. Give it a listen, why don’tcha?
The worst part about it is that most of the dudes I know that only date white women, DON’T EVEN DATE CUTE ONES! What is it about white women in your simple minds that gives them instant ugly immunity? I can’t understand it. Maybe it’s like Katt Williams told Lisa Lampinelli during the Comedy Central Roast of Flavor Flav: “The only reason brothers have sex with you, is so they can feel like they beat up a white man and got away with it.“
Whatever the case, I’d like your thoughts on this matter. To re-iterate my stance, I feel that love is blind, and people should be able to date who they want. I only get irritated when I hear people talk about not dating their own kind. Maybe it’s just me, but whenever I hear something like this, I feel like therapy is in order for that individual.
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Inter-racial dating will lead to our destruction.
that sounds extreme but you have to look at the matter a little closer.
dating your own kind is a matter of survival.
you dont see gorillas mating with chimpanzees or even sharing the same space.
we too should follow the laws of nature.
historically everytime the black man has been liberal about mating he has doomed himself.
Egypt, Moorish Spain, Dravidian India? are you familiar with that.
and why would you want a white person anyway. there biologically sick. thats not racism its science. if man is supposed to have melanin isnt something wrong if you’re melanin deficient?
Politically, interacial dating stops us from race based politics. some say thats good.
but raced base policies and attitudes wont disappear just because a few selfish blacks go outside the race.
> kush
Riddle me this… inter-racial dating led to our first black president. You’re saying he’ll lead us to destruction?!
Laws of nature…come on that’s just retarded. Bless your heart.
> The riddler
I’m always up for interracial relationships. If love has you chasing someone of another race, go for it.
There are always people who think it’s more than that.. but we all started out from Adam & Eve. So what ever problems other races have… we also have them.
> Eathan
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I agree! My own bloodline is mixed going back several generations. Love is where you find it no matter what package it comes in. When people only date outside their race or speak badly about people who share their skin color it makes me sick. I’ve found these people have usually dated the lowest of the low and now try to paint everyone with the same brush. I know black people who are whiter than white and white people who are blacker than black. ☺
> LadyByDay
I do believe to each its own and whatever makes you happy, but at the same time, I’ve raised MY SON to love black women and I will not apologize for that. In my mind (not stating a fact) when I see black men with white women it makes me wonder if they really love themselves and their race. It makes ME think that they think white is somehow better, which I guess is a crazy thought since most brothers that date white women date unattractive “fat” white women and/or they’re the brother that sistas are saying “that white women can have him” cause he’s probably down-low or just not or type anyway, something not attractive is going on). So for the most part, if that’s what you do, that’s what you do, but my son, my nephews, that’s going to be a no go for them!
> Teene
To Kush –no disrespect but thats such a dumb argument. To say that gorillas dont mate with other types of animals is true –but neither do humans. We dont mate with gorillas or giraffes either. HOwever, the animal kingdom doesnt discriminate within their own species. Dogs mate with all other breeds and colors of dog, just like cats, chimps and everything else. So why would humans be different if you’re making an animal-human analogy.
Yours is one of those arguments you hear spouted off on The Maury show or something. Very ignorant neo-nazi-ish. Sorry to be harsh, but it simply makes no sense and I wish would would retire that argument.
> jamdonaldson
Lol Kush, you’re probably one of the most retarded people I’ve ever encountered on the Internetz. Saying that we’re superior because we have melanin? Do you know what melanin’s evolutionary purpose is?! Do you realize how blacks have a higher genetic affinity for a large majority of health problems; heart disease, Alzheimer’s and lung cancer to name a few. People date what they’re used to being around. If you grow up in a predominantly white neighborhood, are you going to identify with a black chick from a predominately black neighborhood? On the other hand, is this black chick gonna even wanna date you, are you what she’s used to? People are more than just the color of their skin, they’re a result of their environment, upbringing, and they’re exposure to “society” in general.
> lol@kush
I so totally agree with you on the whole ugly white girl thing, if you gonna cross over do it BIG!!! No UGLY girls allowed!!!
> msdailey
Kim and Reggie. These type of pairs, and white trash with absolutely ragged black folks, seem to be in the public eye. That makes me throw up. But normal, regular, pleasant everyday interracial couples make me smile.
There, I said it.
> chris chambers
Dearest Kush, thank you so much for letting me know that I am a mutant cretin of interspecies erotica. And I hope it makes you happy to know that you’re spouting the same voice of the Aryan Nation from the other side of the fence. LOL
But as a biracial individual, I’d feel kind of strange being AGAINST interracial relationships. But I am also a firm believer in the idea that it’s your perogative to date whoever lights up your life. Genuine love can spawn well past the “Snowflake/big dick brotha” stereotypes.
> Tasha
I am in an interracial relationship and it’s wonderful. I was previously married to someone of my own race and it didn’t work out. Was race the major factor here? Not at all - personality was. I say you should be with the person that cares about you, makes you happy, loves you and is there for you through thick and thin. A man does not get “extra points” because he’s the same color that I am. He gets “extra points” for being an extraordinary person (no matter what race). God is in charge of my life and he has given me the right man for me. I wouldn’t dare reject that man because he’s not of my own race.
> Maggie
the idea that black people who date outside their race usually grow up around white people as peers is so false. black men from predominantly black environments (for example, pro athletes, black actors, etc) date white women because they have only ever seen white women as ideals of beauty, virtue, and womanhood on television and whites in general in positions of authority or power in their communities. they have no realistic idea of or experience with white people. what they have is a fetish for these white women, “loving” them for superficial things like hair texture, blue eyes, and passivity. It’s the same the other way around. Ask a white woman what she loves about her black man, and she’ll say it’s his smooth skin, like chocolate, his passion, his physical strength (animalistic qualities), or as we all know, his sex. what about his mind?
> justafetish
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When you’re a pro athlete or an actor you don’t live in the hood anymore right? Where do you live? A white suburb your environment changes, your friends change, etc etc. Every black dude isn’t strong, nor dark, nor passionate, nor are black men interested in white women because of their “blue eyes”. I’d say that is an incredibly ignorant generalization.
> lol@kush
pretty folks date ugly folks, fat folks date skinny folks, smart folks date dumb folks, etc.
if somebody makes you happy, good for you. you only get one time around in this thing called life.
i want my daughters to, when they grow up, have fulfulling relationships with african-american men. however, if they find someone who’s cambodian and pigmey who treats them like queens, respects and cherishes them, i’ll be happy for them. but i’ll be joneing on the cambodian/pigmey/white/chinese whatever they are at every opportunity. that’s just how i roll.
> bookman
Race is a concept invented by humans. It’s not real. Saying you’ll only date a race besides your own doesn’t make any sense. It just means you like people of a separate stereotype from yours.
> s0und0FF
What if it is an albino african american? Is it ok to date them? What about an albino australian, italian, japanese, canadian, etc.? Now ask yourself if it would be the same if you were black instead of white or white instead of black.
Don’t shoot the messenger…I just studied genetics and understand its no different from brown eyes or blue. Here’s a concept…give up the stereotypes based on color because I’m a white boy that knows kama sutra and has the tool to use it. I also see just as much whiteness in Obama as blackness (genetically he’s 50-50, not black), and feel that the NAACP includes my pink skin (fyi, we do have pigments also) even though they could care less about my color. Is that facing the facts as Rev. Wright would hope for? Is that racist? Or is s0undOFF correct in stating that race is created by humans?
While you all marinate on what I have stated, I think I’ll study the current economic situation and attempt a solution that includes all US citizens…and if you really want to see how quickly racism can disappear, I suggest you serve in the US military and trust that person of “opposite pigment” to protect you as you protect them. My point? Racism is dead to only those who bury it…so grab a shovel and press on.
> Mike
While I’m not a fan of interracial dating, I don’t knock it. I’ve dated outside of my race with a Mexican man, a half cracka/half Mexican man and a cracka from Africa (the Seychelles, but basically Africa)and to me, NONE of them even came half way close to comparing to the fine sexual chocolate that is us. (the Mexicans had close second, though)
But to each his/her own.
Folks have a tendency to say that people who date outside of their “race” have self-hate issues. That IS the case in some people, but for the majority of the people that choose interracial mates, it’s only a matter of who peaked their interest from the start and it turned into a love affair which led to something more.
Now, being raised in a “colorless” household where my bigot uncle also resided (who by the way is still my favorite uncle despite his racist ways) I honestly do have a tendency to get that “screw-face” look when I see a white girl with a black man, or a black woman with a white boy.
*notice the how that was said*
At the end of the day, it’s THEIR lives, not mine. I’m okay with it, but it’s not an idea that I’m “head-over-heels” in love with. Old habits die hard - especially the bad ones.
Also, I think it depends on the race. Cause hell, I’d leave my fiance for a Samoan in a heartbeat. (Yep, I said it - it’s THAT deep)
Love me some Samoan men. *sighs*
> RedBeanzNRice
I’m loving the dialogue you all have going on in here. Some interesting perspectives. Thanks for sharing them.
> ListenToLeon
Now, being raised in a “colorless” household where my bigot uncle also resided (who by the way is still my favorite uncle despite his racist ways) I honestly do have a tendency to get that “screw-face” look when I see a white girl with a black man, or a black woman with a white boy.
Nice of you to refer to them as like lesser beings or something, and then on top of that referring to them as “crackas” you’re just equal to your racist clown of an uncle. That’s right crazy lady, you can be a bigot too.
> lol@kush
Chris Chamber wrote:
Kim and Reggie. These type of pairs, and white trash with absolutely ragged black folks, seem to be in the public eye. That makes me throw up. But normal, regular, pleasant everyday interracial couples make me smile.
There, I said it.
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So, IR dating is OK as long as it falls within your accepted boundaries of “normal” and on your terms, correct?
What is “normal” anyway?
> ted
I think Chris is saying that what the public usually sees is the stereotypes, the athletes, entertainers, powerful men with white women, and the Jerry Springer types. Both are Not normal, they do not live among most of us. He means regular working people who are not on TV or tabloids, and who would not be reading or posting to this blog. I personally have an issue with it to the extent that we do have to realize that the media promotes a beauty standard and Black women historically and currently are not a part of that beauty standard unless they resemble white women or are biracial and resemble white women. Hence, weaves, wigs, lipo, implants, etc. But you don’t see a sister with an afro or locs in Vogue, Elle, Glamour, etc. heck not even on Ebony or Jet unless its a celebrity. So when you have Black men choosing to IR date and deliberately excluding women of their own race. That is problematic on a number of levels, it is delegating women of their own race to an inferior status, which includes, their mothers, sisters, cousins, aunts and grandmothers. That is a form of self hate and betrayal that IMO, means you need therapy. I love Black men because my father was and is the role model for me for what is a good black man. If I found a man of another race who is honorable, and met my criteria and passed the “Daddy” test (mommy test is worse), I would not have an issue with IR dating and marriage. But relationships based on stereotypes is as bad as refusing to date based on stereotypes. You can say its preferences, but preferences do not exist in a psychosocial vacume.
> bdsista
Kush-
See what I did? I rambled and still managed to prove you wrong.
If food were not fortified with Vitamin D and you lived where I did, your skin color would be an evolutionary disadvantage, because it requires more sun to make the proper amount of Vit. D. However, my skin, being so pale I nearly glow in the dark, process it quite well. What does this mean? It means I don’t get SAD (seasonal affective disorder), I don’t have to take supplements, and I don’t have to own a sunlight. It also means that if I live in a place with a lot of sun, I get burnt, and that I get sun poisoning. But I live North of Canada, not a huge problem.
> PaleComputerEngineeringMajor
Interracial power is changing the world. This revolution is happening constantly. It is wonderful.
> interracialpower
I think interracial dating is great. be with whoever makes you happy. regardless of what other people think.
> Splabluagh88
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> Peter Grievik
Interracial dating is for fat white trash women that are the bottom of the gene pool, any pig that would date a knuckle-dragging nig is shit.
> trash
I think, whoever has problem dating his own kind has self-esteem issues and is probably mentally unstable.Like they said “know thy self” first. Having said that, interracial dating is normal.
> Tedros
I am 73 years old and during my day, interracial dating/narriage was a big no-no. I only say that to say that my oldest son is married to a beautiful white French woman and as a result, I have two beautiful randchildren. And guess what, “I am as proud as I can be.”
> Aaron
dating someone darker than u is alright jus black men dont date someone lighter than you fuck all you crackers coming up on a website called BLACKPOWER.COM incase u aint notice and leaving stupid pro-white messages
> MK
MK, thanks for portraying such virulent racism! Calling white people crackers will surely help the racially based problems that exist in the world today…
> Amused&Sad
My name is Teresa, and I am a 34 yr old whitegirl. I was previously married to a bigot of a husband, who couldn’t stand to see white women with black men. Problem was, and still is for whitebois like him, were that the trend of interracial dating is growing at a very alarming rate. I myself, left his pathetic ass, and went on to have the greatest time of my life, marrying my current husband, Jerome, a stud of a black man. I LOVE my husband now because he treats me better then any man has ever treated me. I get all the looks and abuse, mainly from whitebois and black women, but I don’t care. My love for my man is real, as is his love for me. I treat my man how a real man should be treated. When I see my ex-husband out in public, it pisses him off to no end when he sees Jerome pull me in close to him with his muscular arms. And I smile because I know he won’t say shit to Jerome, because he’s just a scared whiteboi like all the rest. Plus, I know it pisses him off that currently, I look the best I’ve ever been since high school. I just love it how Jerome always wants me to show off my body as well. It honestly makes me feel like a true woman. My life completely changed for the better ever since I started dating black men. Maybe that is why you see so many interracial couples out there now. Just my .02
> Teresa
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